Being loving, encouraging and supportive of another person usually comes as second nature. We see our love lift them up when they are down and it makes them happier and optimistic about life. And when these people make mistakes we can forgive them. But how many of us forgive ourselves just as easily? Not enough. We tend to hold grudges against ourselves and judge ourselves so harshly that we are stopped in our tracks and paralyzed by our mistakes. This lack of self-love leaves us feeling drained and discouraged, keeping us from succeeding on our journeys to a fulfilling life. If we work at it we can reverse these limiting beliefs. We can retrain ourselves by practicing simple steps towards more self-love. Start with these three easy tips:
Have you ever given yourself a hug? It might sound silly but I fully encourage you to try it right now. It feels good to receive love, especially from ourselves. If you’re working hard and looking for a little special treatment, why not give it to yourself? Mindfully buy your favorite treat at the store. Light candles for dinner, even if you’re eating alone. Go out for a massage or if you can’t, give yourself a little neck or foot rub. Show your body and soul that you love yourself completely and treat it with loving care. It will respond positively because when we take care of ourselves, our bodies know we are listening and will work to communicate back to us. Treating ourselves with love will encourage our bodies to function their best and keep us healthy and happy.
Too many of us deflect compliments, and downplay other’s high-held opinions when it comes to our talents, gifts and accomplishments. When someone pays you a compliment, accept it! Don’t devalue yourself by disagreeing. Instead, honor them and honor yourself by graciously accepting their flattery. It will make them feel good and it will start to change your relationship with yourself. There is nothing wrong with agreeing to a positive statement that is made about you. And the more you hear and accept these truths, the better you will think and feel about who you are.
Often times we doubt ourselves and even worse, say discouraging things to ourselves in our heads. We can be our own meanest critic and worst enemy. It’s time to flip that around and be our own best cheerleaders! When you hear your inner voice speaking negatively towards you, stop it in its tracks. Even if you may at the time believe the harsh words to be true, don’t allow them to be spoken. Defend yourself knowing that this voice of self-doubt will eventually hold you back from your dreams. Replace works like “I never” and “I can’t” with “I can”, “I will”, “I do”.
Self-love isn’t something that comes easy for most of us. It is however a practice that we can work on and develop, and every little change we make will show dramatic improvement in our lives. Self-love seems to have a ripple effect on us, bringing in more love from others and more easily found joys in life. Practicing self-love is one of the first steps I strongly recommend if you’re on the path to a blissful and abundant life!
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